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We are a family

After 6 days of Braxton-Hicks contractions, I woke up Friday night just after midnight and knew… “these are different.”  18 hours later our new little girl arrived in the world.  It was a long and grueling labor; active labor went relatively speedily but I got stuck in transition for 3 hours and pushed another 3.5.   A dose of temporary anesthesia after 2 hours of transition gave me an hour’s rest and made it possible to make it through the Iron Triathlon.  At the last minute during pushing her heartbeat dropped but we got her out quick and she perked up right away.   The hardest thing I’ve ever done but very, very worth it.

She is happy, healthy, mellow, and doing great.  When they were done making sure she was OK, we got to see her and said to each other, “how did we end up with such a beautiful baby?”  It is amazing to realize that she is the being who has been living in my belly for the last 9.5 months.  Mr. Nishkanu is a puddle of melted love and is taking great care of me and her. I always knew he would be a great dad and now he finally has the chance.

Hope to provide more details when I’m back on my feet more regularly (and can sit down – 3.5 hours of pushing has left a lot of pretty horrifying mementos).  For now the short stats:


6:11 pm

8 lbs 8 oz.

It’s a girl!

p.s. My great gratitude goes out to the inventors of… the donut pillow for sitting on, the sitz bath,  the nipple shield, and the My Brest Friend nursing pillow (despite the stupid name).


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Forecast brighter

I had my midwife appointment this morning and altogether it was pretty much as awesome as Monday’s was awful.

First was the non-stress test and biophysical profile.  To Mr. Nishkanu’s disappointment, the little one was not cooperative in a face shot during the ultrasound, but on the positive side it passed all its tests with ultra flying colors – a super happy and healthy baby.

After talking it over with the midwife, we decided to do the membrane sweep – she said that it might not make much of a difference, since the data collected on membrane sweeping is on doing it once a week from 37 weeks, not once at 41 weeks, but she also said that the negative risks, aside from discomfort of the procedure, are very, very small.  In fact, the procedure turned out not to be too painful, the midwife had a knack for it apparently.   And once you have had a uterine biopsy for embryo co-culture (“you might feel a little pressure”) all other forms of pain down there become relativized…

In general, the midwife said that everything looks good, I can coast for another 4 days on this good test.  On Monday I will go in for another test and they will start talking induction., and probably plan it for Tuesday (the day I am 41 weeks 6 days… that is starting to sound reasonable).  She also gave me tips to try at home to see if we can get things started before the induction.  There are a billion suggestions out there in the  world about what might get things going but here was the scoop she gave me:

1) People say sex will start labor, it won’t actually, but it can help to soften your cervix and get it ready to go, so not a bad idea (and it’s funny how enthusiastic the husbands are to help out).

2) People say walking will start labor, that is only true if you are already having contractions.  I’ve been having contractions for days so we’ll chalk that up to a yes.   She recommended especially walking uphill, as long as your heart rate doesn’t get too high.  The other couple that was in our childbirth class, it turns out, went into labor on the day the woman decided to walk into work up a big, giant hill… so anecdotal evidence supports this recommendation as well.

3) Nipple stimulation, she suggested 20 minutes every 3 hours with a breast pumping machine… holy poo, I am not sure I am up for labor jumpstarting attempts as a full-time job… but maybe this is a good reason to actually read the directions and see how it works…

Overall it was a very positive appointment.  I think when the other midwife on Monday was giving us the scare job with all the negative outcomes, she was talking about the outcomes of being “post dates” (ie. after 42 weeks) and not “overdue” (ie. after 40 weeks).  All in all I think we had a super non-communicative interaction, we were pissed off, she was pissed off… if she turns out to be the midwife on duty when I go in we will have to try to find a way to get on a different footing with her.  Kind of a bummer to have to deal with that when you are ALSO in labor, but on the other hand, it is in our interest to have a good relationship with her, so I guess we will have to make an effort.

The good news is my very favorite midwife is on call from Friday evening through Monday morning, so we have a pretty good chance of having her if we can get things going soon…

In the afternoon I had an acupuncture appointment in another bid to do anything that doesn’t seem risky to try to get stuff moving.  It was a pretty intense appointment, I got nauseated and dizzy several times and she had to reset the needles once to make sure I didn’t actually pass out on her.  I don’t know if it will help with getting labor started but in the “total miracle” department, she placed some needles as well to help with heartburn and for the first time in months I do not have heartburn tonight (even after eating sausages and brussel sprouts for dinner and drinking a nonalcoholic beer).

That’s the  scoop for now, stay tuned and find out what happens…

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The dream

Almost every morning I regale Mr. Nishkanu with a blow-by-blow of my strangest dreams of the night before.  I never get any blow-by-blows back , because Mr. Nishkanu never remembers his dreams.  In all the time I have known him, more than 15 years, he has remembered his dreams twice.

Well, now three times.  Last night he dreamt that they had made a mistake on our ultrasounds, and we were actually having quintuplets.  I asked him if that was good news or bad news, he said “bad news! that was definitely bad! I was so stressed!”  I said “what  was stressful, coming up with 5 names?” (we still haven’t been able to agree on names for the little one) He said “Yes! that too!  That came up too!”  I said, “Hey, at least we wouldn’t have to do any more IVF!”

I guess  that the baby performance anxiety isn’t just affecting me these days…

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Handicapped after all!

Follow-up on my prior post… I requested special parking from my employer due to my non-handicapped-yet-unable-to-walk-long-distances state and the parking beancounter cheerfully replied, “No problem, we will be happy to give you a temporary handicapped permit!”  I am tempted to take it to the OB’s office just to irritate the nurse practitioner.  But I think that will just lead to more school-marmish lectures…


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